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13 assumptions that people make when starting a new relationship

13 New Relationship Assumptions Panel

There are 13 common assumptions people make when starting a new relationship, and we challenge them with a fresh perspective and unveil the realities that lie beneath.

By understanding and confronting these assumptions, you can approach new relationships with more clarity, honesty, and a greater chance of success.

Assumption 1

The right person will just "come along" without any effort

While there may be an element of serendipity in finding love, building a strong and lasting relationship requires effort, initiative, and a willingness to put oneself out there.

Assumption 2

Physical attraction is the most important factor in a relationship

While physical attraction can be an initial spark, compatibility in values, interests, and communication styles plays a more significant role in the long-term success of a relationship.

Assumption 3

Opposites attract and make for a more exciting relationship

While differences can sometimes be stimulating, long-term compatibility often depends on shared values, goals, and communication styles.

Assumption 4

All relationships should progress at the same pace

Relationships progress at different speeds, and individuals have varying expectations regarding commitment and intimacy. Respecting each other's boundaries and allowing the relationship to develop organically is important.

Assumption 5

Relationships should always progress smoothly and without conflict

Conflicts are an inevitable part of any relationship, and they can provide opportunities for growth and understanding if they are approached constructively.

Assumption 6

Relationships should be effortless all the time

All relationships require work, compromise, and a willingness to navigate challenges together. Conflicts and disagreements are inevitable, but they can also provide opportunities for growth and understanding.

Assumption 7

You should change yourself to fit your partner's expectations

Healthy relationships are built on mutual respect, acceptance, and a willingness to appreciate each other's individuality. While compromise is important, it shouldn't come at the expense of losing your sense of self.

Assumption 8 

If you love someone enough, they will change for you

Healthy relationships are built on mutual respect and acceptance, not on trying to change your partner's fundamental personality.

Assumption 9

Relationships require constant effort and attention to thrive

While relationships do require some effort, they should also feel effortless and enjoyable. If you are constantly feeling drained or unhappy, it may be a sign that the relationship is not healthy.

Assumption 10

Once you are in a relationship, you should stop putting effort into your appearance and personal life

Maintaining your appearance and interests is not just about attracting others; it's also about taking care of yourself and maintaining your sense of identity.

Assumption 11

True love conquers all

While love is a powerful force, it's not enough to sustain a relationship. Compatibility, shared values, effective communication, and mutual respect are essential for a successful partnership.

Assumption 12

Once you're in a relationship, the work is done

Maintaining a healthy relationship requires ongoing effort, attention, and nurturing. Relationships need to be constantly cultivated and nourished to thrive over time.

Assumption 13

If you are not happy with your relationship, you should just end it

Sometimes relationships go through rough patches, but that doesn't mean they are beyond repair. If both partners are committed to working things out, it may be possible to overcome challenges and strengthen the relationship.



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